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I’ve started this entry three times already and erased all of it to start again, trying to find the right way to explain what’s going on in my head these days, when it hit me – that’s exactly it: I’m trying to figure out a way.

See, I feel like I’m at a crossroads in my life… but not really. I have a good job, a nice apartment, all that stuff, so I’m fine, really. But I feel the need for … something. I can’t put my finger on it, exactly. It’s not that I feel unsatisfied (or any more unsatisfied than most everybody feels about something or other most times, anyway), I just feel, well, done.

When I was in college, I had the opportunity to be in several plays. We’d rehearse for a couple of months, and then the last week before a performance we’d rehearse all the technical parts and have a dress rehearsal and it’d take hours and hours that last week. Our first show would be Friday, with another performance on Saturday. Thursday’s dress rehearsal always felt like a performance (as it should!), but really we had the two main performances.

Later on in my college years, the school started adding a performance on the following Monday, a matinee. A few hundred retirees would come from all over the state, have a nice lunch, and then see a performance of whatever play we were putting on that semester. By the time those Monday shows came around, the cast was pretty much done with the play. The adrenalin of Friday night’s show followed by the smoother performance on Saturday pretty much rounded out the whole experience. By the time Monday rolled around, we were ready to strike and move on to the cast party where we’d watch a video of the performance and wisecrack through the whole thing. Certain actors were given to playing on-stage pranks during the senior citizen’s show, and I remember one fellow got himself slapped by the director for fooling around onstage during the performance. I never went in for the pranks myself, but I understood the feelings behind them: anything to liven up the atmosphere, because we were done.

That’s how I’m feeling right now. The show’s done, the performance was what it was, let’s strike the set and move on to the next town.

I like where I live, I like my job, and, for the most part, I like the people around me. There is no “ugh, I really hate this” reason for me to move on. Nor is there some “I wish I were there!” place in my thinking.

Earlier this year a friend of mine was going through some of these same exact thoughts. She’d lived her whole life here and she wanted something different. I remember when she first started talking about it, there were lots of “I don’t know”s and “I just wonder”s. From there it was “I have an interview in Colorado that I’m doing just to see” and soon after that it was “My house is sold and I found a place in Colorado” and then she moved. Just like that. She knew one couple out there, but the rest of it was a big unknown. She was back in town a month ago and we met for breakfast and she said this: “I don’t know if I want to do this job much longer, but I love the area and, more importantly, I love that I did this, made this change. I needed to see what it was like.”

As I so often did after the plays in college, I sit now out in the theater, looking at the stage, appreciating the set as a whole for the first time, remembering the performance (both the good and the bad parts), and wondering –

“Will I try out for the next one?”

I’ve been looking forward to this weekend for a while. My school has Fall Break today and Monday, so I took vacation days to have the four-day weekend. For reasons I cannot fully explain, I’ve had the desire to go somewhere. It’s weird because I’m so keen on turtling usually, but I’ve really felt like going somewhere.

Problem is, I can’t find a place to go. Key thoughts were “cheap” and “someplace I haven’t been before” and, as this weekend got closer, “less and less far away.” You’d be surprised by how limiting those guidelines can be. Sure, there are things that fit in those guidelines, but nothing I really feel compelled to travel for.

I thought I might swing through and see some friends on my way to seeing other things (and, you know, hit them up for free lodging), but it turns out they’re busy, or having surgery, or something.

So today hit and I still have no plans. I could still leave tomorrow or even tonight on my way somewhere, but… there’s nowhere to go.

So I slept in til almost noon, went out and got some lunch and went to Barnes & Noble, Best Buy, and a videogame store and now I’m back home. I guess I’ll play a few rounds of Tiger Woods golf and try to figure out how to gel my desire to travel with my previous unwillingness to do so and my current inability to do so.

Sounds fun, doesn’t it?

For a few years now, I’ve been hauling around a Darth Maul bag as my luggage. It’s the perfect size to pack for a weekend and I found out it’s also the perfect size to put in an overhead bin on an airplane.

…but it’s a little embarrassing. It hit me when I went to Canada this summer that I was now 34 years old and still hauling around a bag with a picture of a Star Wars character on it. I’ve never actually lived in my parents’ basement, but anyone seeing me with this bag would guess that, not only had I, but I still was currently.

A few months later, I went to Dallas. And I felt silly again. I found myself turning the bag in towards me so Darth Maul wouldn’t be glowering at people, but the end of the bag still says “Star Wars” on it, so it still wasn’t ideal.

It was high time for a change. One visit to Target later, and I was set. Here’s a comparison:

Much more grown-up, don’t you think? Slowly but surely, one step at a time, I’m finally advancing into adulthood.

Now I just need to figure out where I’m traveling next.