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I have become the world's most delinquent blogger. To tide you over, here's a picture from a few weeks ago of me riding a bike.



It was the first time I'd been on a bike in... well, let's just say longer than I'd care to mention.

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I played baseball for two seasons in high school, my Sophomore and Junior years. I got some play time the first year because the Seniors went on the Senior Trip. I think I played in two, maybe three games. The one vivid memory I have from that time is letting a grounder go through my legs during a game. Is there anything more cliché? I guess some things are clichés for a reason.

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I joined a softball team for the summer.

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Nertz to looking back on the previous year on New Year's Eve. Makes more sense to do it on one's birthday, I figure.

So what'd I do this year? In no particular order:

• I bought a house.
• I almost burned the house down because I don't know how to work a fireplace.
• I finally cancelled my World of Warcraft account. I hadn't played in a long, long time and it was overdue.
• I started doing some announcing for the improv group.
• I got a new boss at work.
• I started drinking soda again, mostly because I love root beer.
• I got a new phone after two years with my Samsung Blackjack. The new one is an HTC Fuze and I'm already $500 in the hole in the solitaire game on it. Stupid Vegas rules.
• I met a lot of new and wonderful people.
• I sort of started playing the piano again, though after a quick burst I haven't gotten back to it since.
• I went to a midnight showing of The Dark Knight and realized I'm getting too old to go to midnight showings.
• Weirdly, I only wrote 13 reviews this year.
• I only wrote 48 blog entries, which is less than one per week.  No wonder my readership numbers have dived.
• I traveled a lot more than I usually do in a year.
• I saw the World War II memorial in Washington, D.C., for the first time.
• I lost a year and a half's worth of pictures when my hard drive crashed.
• I played a lot of Scrabble.
• I fell in love.
• I stopped wearing a watch.
• I stretched Beatles Week out to ridiculous lengths.
• I bought a grill.
• I pulled my Achilles tendon while simply using a treadmill and it hurt for two months.  This has been the biggest reminder to me that I'm getting older!
• I threw up for the first time in 23 years.
• I got a roommate.
• I completed the Endless Setlist II on two separate occasions -- with help, of course.
• I tried some foods for either the first time or the first time in a while: mahi mahi, kiwi, guacamole, some others I can't remember.
• I co-taught a class on technology at church.
• I played the role of Jesus in our church's Passion Play.
• I paid off all my debts (except for the house). This makes the third time in my life I've gotten to this point, and I'd like to keep from having to do it again if I can.
  
• I was immensely blessed in many ways.
• Oh, and I got this from my Aussie friend Carolyn.

Comic courtesy of PBF Comics, which aren't necessarily always something I'd recommend.

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I mentioned this on Twitter yesterday, but yesterday I was in a group of guys that were discussing the "Four Rules of Communication." It's a well-known topic at our church, and it happened to come up in our normal study schedule.

Here are the Four Rules of Communication:

1. Be honest
2. Keep current
3. Attack the problem not the person
4. Act, don't react

The idea behind these rules is that every human relationship will run into rough spots, disagreements, and plain old outright fights. While those things can't be avoided, these rules can help the rough spots be smoother. The rules are designed to solve problems.

Be honest - Makes sense. You can't solve problems if the problems aren't being presented as they are. Solving fake problems doesn't help anyone.

Keep current - This one has two elements to it. First, the idea is to deal with things as they come up. If you dwell on something and let it fester for months, the problem multiplies and gets harder to fix. The second part is letting go of the past. If a problem has been brought up and dealt with and forgiveness has been granted, don't bring it up again in future discussions. "I can't trust you in this situation because of what you did in that situation, even though I forgave you for it" doesn't work.

Attack the problem not the person - Again, just makes sense. Calling into question the other person's abilities or calling them names will make them defensive and make the situation even more thorny than it already was. Our pastor likes to say, "Problems were meant for solving," and if you're attacking the other person, you're not working on solving the problem.

Act, don't react - This is the one I have the hardest time understanding, but I think it has more to do with dealing with the actual issues, not reacting to the symptoms or hurt feelings. I'm going to react to things differently when I'm tired or sick or excited or in a good mood, so reactions aren't a good judge of "what needs to happen." Acting on what I know is the better way.

I wish I could remember everything that we discussed. The guys had some good insight that I know I'm forgetting here. It's always a challenge to me when the subject comes up because I know I'm not the best communicator. I avoid problems and hope they go away, and that isn't right. I need to learn how to meet problems head-on and deal with them.

The Bible is full of all kinds of practical advice alongside its spiritual guidelines. I think the four rules stand on their own pretty well, but in case you're interested, they are based on Ephesians 4:25-32:

Therefore, laying aside falsehood, SPEAK TRUTH EACH ONE of you WITH HIS
NEIGHBOR, for we are members of one another. BE ANGRY, AND yet DO NOT SIN; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not give the devil an opportunity. He who steals must steal no longer; but rather he must labor, performing with his own hands what is good, so that he will have something to share with one who has need. Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear. Do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.

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I did not win the radio contest.

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The station I listen to is running a movie trivia contest this week.. They play an audio clip and the caller who identifies the movie wins a CD, a DVD, and is entered into a drawing for a grand prize of a home theater system. It seems like a strange giveaway for a Christian radio station, but, hey, movie trivia.

On my way to work this morning the clip was "There's no crying in baseball!" I dialed. And dialed. And dialed. Busy, busy, busy. The lady who got through was all, "Well, it's Tom Hanks and there's a women's baseball team" but couldn't come up with the answer. I'm talking to the radio at this point: "A League of Their Own! Geena Davis! Lori Petty! Madonna! Rosie O'Donnell!" I don't know how it turned out because I had to go in to work.

I've tried calling in to several radio contests and I've always had pretty much that same experience. Either it's busy or they're getting too many calls and my call won't go through. I've always been suspicious that no one ever actually wins the contests, because how could they? It seems like a racket.

On my way back to work from a later-than-usual lunch, the DJ started talking about the next clip "coming right up." He played it - an easy one - "[slap] Snap out of it!" It's Cher slapping Nicolas Cage in Moonstruck, and I would have known that even if I hadn't seen the movie, because I remember that scene and line from the ads they played back then (was that really 1987?? Yikes.)

I hit dial as soon as they clip was done, gearing up to hit redial a bunch more times and then go into work deflated yet again. Weirdly enough, the phone rang. That surprised me, but then I reassured myself that "they're looking for the eleventh caller and you're the tenth." It only rang a couple of times, and then this guy picked up:

I had no idea what he looked like before now, but I kind of think he looks a little like I might look in not too many more years.

Anyway, I told him who I was, still expecting him to say, "You were so close," and then he asked me if I knew what movie the clip was from. "Well, yeah, that's Cher talking to Nicolas Cage in Moonstruck."

"You're right! You've won the CD/DVD and are entered in the grand prize drawing!"

I was more than a little floored, and I said the first thing that came to mind: "Sweet monkey!" It's a phrase I picked up from my friends Matt & Kat a few years back, and it has stuck with me.

As soon as I said it, JD said, "Yep, an--- what did you say?!"

"Uh, 'sweet monkey'."

"I have never heard that before!"

"Well," I said, "you are more than welcome to use it!"

After that he collected my name, address, and phone number and at one point said "They must grow them smart in Indiana!" which prompted me to ask if someone else from Indiana had won earlier today. His answer was no, so I was a little confused, but we didn't pursue that any further.

So now I'm getting a DVD that I think I'll like and a CD that I don't think I will. I sense an upcoming contest here on MadMup.com for that one... On top of that, I'm entered in a big ol' contest. I don't suspect I'll win that, but it was cool to put my immense library of brain-stored movie trivia to good use for once.


(It turns out that quote was voted as the #96 movie quote by the American Film Institute. Cher slaps Nic and says the line right after he says "I love you!") 5 comments

For two years when I was too young to go a full week of summer camp, I went to weekend summer camp. It was somewhere around third grade or so, and I think it was more about getting me used to being away from home than anything else.

I was young enough that I hadn't really had any experience around a collection of water bigger than a bathtub, so swimming looked like a cool thing to me. I wasn't foolish enough to just go out and try it, of course - I could tell that it was something you needed to know how to do - but the little waterslide right on the edge of the beach looked fun, so I decided to give that a try. And, hey, it was fun. I went down it again, and it was still fun. The third time, though... not as much fun. After I landed in the water, I turned around to yell to my friend who was in line after me. I was a bit unsteady on my feet and I might have tripped over something, but the next thing I knew, I had fallen backwards into and under the water.

I'm sure everyone's had that feeling at some point, that panic of not being able to find footing, the feeling of water going up your nose, swallowing water in an attempt to breathe, flailing for any sort of surface to grab to help pull your head above water. Complete helplessness, utter panic, and intense fear.

I don't know how I got out or how long I was under. It felt like minutes, but I'm sure it couldn't have been more than a few seconds. I was crying and afraid and the most amazing thing to me was that no one had noticed. The lifeguards and other campers were all still going on about their lives as though I hadn't just almost died. I felt... betrayed. Hurt. Alone. I mean, it's a lifeguard's JOB to watch out for drowning kids, for crying out loud!

I left the beach and didn't go back.

A couple of years later, I had moved up to week-long summer camp. Our counselor pushed us all to sign up for the whitewater rafting trip later in the week. He assured me that everyone wore lifejackets, so I would not drown. Somehow in the course of the trip, I fell out of the raft and, even with a lifejacket on, ended up underwater. All the same feelings came back instantly.

There's no more-enclosed space than being underwater. I don't know if I was claustrophobic before these experiences, or if these almost-drownings made me claustrophobic, I just know that being underwater and being n an enclosed space (or a large crowds) give me the same feelings.

Six years ago I took some swimming lessons to try to get past fear. I'd been able to dodge swimming activities for a long time, but I decided to try to conquer it and get on with my life. The first half of my daily lessons were an exercise in reliving all those fears over and over. Ultimately the lessons did help, but if you don't use it, you lose it, and I didn't get back in a pool until last summer, by which point any confidences I had were gone.

That experience, though, taught me the beauty and peacefulness of floating. I absolutely loved it. I enjoyed it so much that I many times since wished I could find a quiet pool and just float. Not having that opportunity, I think I sorta lost that drive, too. Now when I think about swimming pools, I fondly remember floating, but I also vividly remember what it feels like to start drowning.

Longing for something that scares me is a contradiction I can't quite wrap my ahead around.

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